NYC and Eat that Frog!

Wow. It has been two weeks since I have blogged. I want to be more consistent in this but I am struggling with trying to fit it into my schedule these days. Since my last blog Katy, Kandace and I traveled up to New York city. We lived kind of a fantasy life for a few days. We went to see the Broadway play "Wicked" and ate at some delicious New York restaurants. We did things like... go to the top of the Empire State Building, hang out in Times Square, ice skate in Central Park, go for a moonlight dinner cruise on the Hudson River where we pulled right up to the Statue of Liberty. Oh, and to top it off Katy and Kandace sang in Carnegie Hall under the direction of Camp Kirkland, who, by the way, is one of the nicest people you will ever meet. It was a "once in a lifetime" trip. Because of God's goodness it was all free to us. I had literally been praying for years to be able to take Katy to New York before her high school graduation in May. (If you know Katy you know she LOVES a good show). God not only provided a trip to New York, He threw in singing at Carnegie Hall. He is so Good!!!

So we are home and back down to earth! A couple of weeks ago I added a free book to my Kindle. It was called "Eat That Frog." I am always adding free books that I hear about to read later when I am out of books to read...which is never. Anyway, I have been reading this book and I wanted to share some of its premise. I have been sharing it with Kevin and the girls too.

The book is basically about what separates the successful people from the not so successful people. Now success can be defined in many ways. I think this book can apply to any kind of success (relational success, career success, etc).

Mark Twain once said that if you eat a frog every morning the rest of the day will seem pretty easy. In other words, the first things we should do each day are the tough things. The things that we want to put off or procrastinate on. Studies show that people who are"successful" CHOOSE to do the hard things first and do not procrastinate. Also, more "successful" people tend to see the long term effects of their choices and decisions. They look out weeks, months or years to see what difference a particular choice makes. People who live in poverty or with relational difficulty do not make choices with thoughts of the long term consequences.

This principle can be applied to so many areas of life. The book covers many more facets of this basic principle but it all comes back to the idea that we must do the hard stuff first and get it done. When we make decisions we must not be short-sighted. "Eat That Frog" was not really written with the spiritual realm in mind but it is certainly Biblical. The book of Proverbs is full of little nuggets about thinking things through and getting things done. For example, it is easier and short-sighted to go light on the discipline when our children are young but the long-term effects are not good. If you sit and watch TV or play video games instead of reading books...long term you will be less intelligent. If you satisfy short term appetites whether sexual or in your stomach...there will be long term repercussions.

If you struggle with self discipline/self control or procrastination I highly recommend this book. Of course, the first thing you need to be reading is the Bible daily (start with Proverbs or John). You can overcome these traits even if they have been a part of who you are for your entire life. Do you know people who get things done? Do you admire where they are in life or what they have accomplished? They are not lucky. They do the hard things first. Maybe you don't like to read.

Well, all I can say to that is, "Eat that Frog!!"

Thoughts for a new year...

With every new year I always try to set some new goals for myself. One goal I have been aiming for each year for the past 6-7 years is to be more deliberate about the ministry of hospitality. The Bible is clear about this but if I do not set goals for myself it just never happens. That is how it is with any goal whether it is weight loss, exercise, reading the Bible, or budgeting our money. Getting back to hospitality, there are many scripture passages about it in the New Testament. "Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling." (1 Peter 4:8-10) is a good one or "Practice hospitality." (Romans 12:13). There are many more, just look it up. It is surprising, really.

The easiest way I know to do this minitry is to plan to invite a different person or family into our home each month. That equates to 12 per year. That may seem small or large depending on your mindset. With the busyness of families these days and the cost of food (feeding a family of six plus others is not cheap), 12 seems to be a number that is reachable for our family. I was thinking if everyone in our church had this same goal and 100 families had 12 families into their homes this year that 1200 new bonds would be formed! WOW!!! Can you imagine that?

I used to just invite people with whom I already had good relationships (friends and family). Those invites are now added to the 12 new ones because inviting new and different people really puts me outside of my comfort zone. It stretches me. God seems to ask things like that a lot of me these days.

This past year I got really slack and did not do much of this hospitality thing past about August. I just got busy and compalcent (that equates to selfish and lazy). I have vowed to get back on track with this plan. I have a LONG list of people to invite!

You may ask, "Why do you need to have people over to your house? Don't you see them at work or church or wherever?" I used to think this same way but there is something special about having someone in your home. It really blesses people when they see you care enought to have them into your "space" and want to spend time with them. (as a side note: eating at a restaurant is nice and I appreciate when folks buy us a meal but I love visiting in the home even more.)

This whole hospitality thing used to be very difficult for me because I stressed a lot about my house being clean or the food being served, but in this journey I have learned not to care so much about those things because most people do not care about my house or whether I feed them a 7 course meal. They just want the fellowship and to know that my family cares.

I am also going to try something new this year. I plan to invite people over for just snacks or desserts. I have very fond memories of my childhood when my parents used to go over to friends' homes to have cake or something after church on Sunday night. We used to have such fun and I don't ever remember what we ate but I do remember having a wonderful time.

With all of that said, we live in a day where we are busy and have so much going on that we often miss out on getting to know our brothers and sisters in Christ because we are running the "rat race" of life. People really don't care how big our homes are or how nice our furniture is. What matters is that we want to spend time together. There is an unexplainable bond that forms when you invite people into your home.

I love to visit people's homes in our church it helps me know them and relate to them so much better. I don't know why but it does. It makes me feel like those people love me and my family. I hope that is how people feel when they come to my home.

Maybe hospitality will be a new project for you this year too. You may say that it is not your "thing." I used to say it was not my "thing" too, but God's commands must be our "thing." Some things are not optional. Hopefully at the end of 2012, I will have been more obedient in the ministry of hospitality than I was in 2011. I guess that is what really matters.

More about me...

I am Pam. I am a Christian, wife and mom. My husband, Kevin, and I were married in 1990. Eighteen years ago I was on the fast track toward career success finishing up my Master's degree and teaching school when a funny thing happened to me...motherhood. When this little girl(Katy) was placed in my arms I knew there was no greater calling in my life than making sure she knew Jesus. I realized quickly that my life would have to change to give this endeavor 100% of my efforts. After trying diligently to juggle my career and motherhood I decided something had to give in the Brown house. To my husband's dismay I confessed that I could not be the mom I needed to be and teach school full time. It took almost no time for Kevin to see that my being at home was an amazing blessing that money could not replace. Another girl came along in 1998 (Kandace). In 1999 I decided to spring another crazy idea on my husband...homeschooling! Well, again after much prayer and thought he agreed. That began another AMAZING and wonderful journey for our family. The sacrifices have been there but the benefits have been ten-fold. Some days I wanted to get dressed up, put on some make-up and leave the kids somewhere else but I knew my calling and I stayed the course (some days were/are hard like doing anything worthwhile). Kevin and I wanted more children so in 2000 we were expecting again. When I lost the baby at 3 months we were heart-broken. I had some health issues that were going to make it difficult to have anymore children so I felt like that was God's answer to that desire...no more kids.

As the next few years passed I kept hearing and reading about adoption. Articles and radio programs seemed to follow me everywhere. In 2004 I threw out another crazy idea to Kevin (he was used to them by now and so were our parents), adoption, international adoption to be more specific. My oldest daughter had been having dreams about this and she didn't even know that I was pitching this idea to Kevin at the same time. We prayed about this for 6 months before acting on it. During this process Kevin left his job as a business man to become a pastor. He took a massive pay cut during the adoption process but God is good and with the help of family and friends we were able to adopt Clara in 2006 and Andrew in 2008. Those two have brought untold blessings to our family in ways we would have never imagined.

We are still on the journey growing and learning each day! What an adventure it is! In this blog I hope to share some of the many things that have happened along this journey we call "life" in our home.

Time to BLOG!

Hello! After watching my husband and oldest daughter blog for a while now, I decided that it is my turn. I am always saying to myself, "I need to Blog about that!" and I finally broke down and got Katy to set up a Blog for me. Most of my musings will be about God, motherhood and life at home with my husband (a pastor) and my four kids who are 17, almost 14, 6 and 6. I hope to take you along with me on my journey. I believe that it is never too late to stop learning and I will share the things I learn. Hopefully they will help someone besides just me.
Keeping a blog is something I believe God is calling me to do in 2012. I love to read the Bible and all kinds of books and share things about them. I enjoy watching old and thought provoking movies. I am not really a fan of TV except for I Love Lucy, or some other old show that has been off the air for many years.
Galatians 6:9 is one of my favorite verses for obvious reasons, I suppose. It is a verse many Christian parents cannot live without. I have it posted in many rooms in my home. Raising children is often a thankless job for many years and sometimes the "harvest" comes long after the "seeds" have been sown. Many times people expect a harvest when they never planted the seeds. Maybe they handed the seeds to someone else...but did they get planted? You only know when the harvest comes.
Galatians 6:9 can apply in many areas of life, not just parenthood, but that is where I am right now. Many people can apply it in other areas. However we apply it. Diligence and perseverance are an important part of the Christian life. I give up a lot. I start many new projects and quit before I reap the rewards. I really want to finish strong in the important stuff and not major on the minors. That is my focus for 2012.